Is my relationship quarantine proof?
We went for a walk this afternoon and went past a house where a woman was screaming at her partner, calling him all sorts of nasty things.. it really brought home the reality of how hard it must be to be stuck at home in a situation that is not respectful and is not loving.
Changing routines and being mostly home together- it can put pressure on all couples. Strained relationships that were not thriving, are going to struggle when forced together 24/7.
What about the rest of us? We thought our relationships were strong, could get through anything..and yet a few weeks in. Are you asking yourself, ‘Is my relationship quarantine proof?’ Can my relationship thrive when there is nowhere to hide?”
Make sure it does, by applying these 5 Quarantine proof relationship tips;
1. Turn up the volume on appreciation.
Even if there are many annoying things that your partner is doing, pick on the things you appreciate instead and let them know. You might like to do this ‘love languages quiz’ to ensure you are ‘speaking’ appreciation in a language that they understand.www.goodnet.org/articles/5-love-languages-which-one-are-you
2. Make love not babies!
While breeding during a time when there is so much uncertainty in the world is not necessarily recommended, sex with contraception certainly is. Making love is great for fitness, it releases feel good neurotransmitters and brings a sense of connection with your partner. Try making love in different areas of the house, wearing sexy outfits and experimenting with new positions.
3. Check in instead of checking out.
Ask each other what you can do to make things easier? Don’t wait until you’re irritated about it to complain. Let each other know the things that will make life easier, and the things that annoy you- do your best to meet each other’s needs but then let it go. Does it really matter if the bath mat gets hung up or not? Or if the dishes sit on the dish rack? Wouldn’t you rather be happy than have everything your way?
4. Put your phone down!
Yes you are perhaps spending way more time together than usual- but are you constantly connected to technology? Eye contact and quality time is so soothing to the nervous system. When we’re constantly scrolling, we’re not available and present- so be intentional and put down the tech and connect.
5. Use this time to get to know each other again.
Sure you’ve heard each other’s stories multiple times and could finish them.. but when you’ve been together for a while- sometimes you stop asking the deeper questions because you think you know the answers! Try asking each other some of these questions which a study found can create a feeling of connection deep enough for even strangers to fall in love with each other! http://36questionsinlove.com